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Love Plans

By Donna Martin

Want more romance in your life?

Young couples who are in those early days of their relationship seem so happy and carefree.  They are so “in love” that they can see no wrong in their sweetheart.  Love has blinded them to any flaws.  Love comes so easily.   Theirs is a simple, fresh love.  They have not yet become bogged down with the day to day cares of life.  Their live is all about their love.  They can’t wait to see each other and spend time together.  They are always planning things to do together and ways to please each other.

And therein lies the secret to keeping the passion in your marriage for years to come.  It’s all in the purposeful planning.  Proverbs 12:22 states, “Those who plan what is good find love and faithfulness.”

It is February 1, and soon will be Valentine’s Day.  But why wait until the 14th.  Why not surprise your spouse and “plan” something special each day for the next 14 days.  It doesn’t have to be expensive or time consuming.  Just do a little something extra to make your spouse know that you still are head over heels in love.  And by the way, you are never too old to make your spouse feel loved and respected.

Here are some ideas if you need some motivation:

  1. Write a love note in lipstick on the mirror in your spouse’s bathroom.
  2. If your spouse likes to play games, turn off the television and suggest that you play a game together.
  3. Prepare your spouse’s favorite dinner or bring home your spouse’s favorite take-out.
  4. Hide a love note in a place where your spouse will find it during the day.
  5. Call your spouse in the middle of the day just to tell her you love her.
  6. Put some candy kisses on your spouse’s pillow.
  7. Make a list of 10 things you like about your spouse and email it to your spouse.
  8. Write a love letter or love poem.
  9. Bring home flowers.
  10. Trade off baby sitting with a friend and then just spend a few hours with your spouse watching movies at home or going to get a desert at your favorite restaurant.

You know what pleases your spouse so get busy right now and surprise them with something special for tonight.  You never know where it will lead.

Share with us some of your ideas for planning love. 

The Martins currently present “Happy Together” marriages seminars for churches and organizations.  To schedule a seminar call Michael at 940-735-1515. They also publish a weekly “Happy Together” Blog about family and marriage issues.  You can order copies of their new books Dancing With Death and 366 Tidbits We Have Learned in 14,610 Days of Marriage, read, and subscribe to their “Happy Together” Blog by logging onto the Martin’s website at

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Reader Comments (2)

I love this entry Donna! #1 on the list is out for me. My handwriting is awful and it would end up looking like a scene from The Shining. Ha! I do #4 on this list. I'll put notes in Mark's lunchbox every once in a while. We both have a LOVE for music, so several times a week we "mext" each text. It has to be a lyric from a song and we also put who the song is by. Sometimes they are funny, loving, down right goofy, passionate, risque :) Example, "Love Will Keep us Together, Think of me Babe Whenever..." Captain and Tenile. We have so much fun with this. I think it's fun to have some funny thing you do. If/when it gets old, change it up! We've changed up a lot in 16 years!

February 1, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterTeresa McElreath

Thanks for your comments, Theresa. I like your idea about "mexting". That sounds like a lot of fun. Laughing and having fun together is a great way to keep your marriage alive. It is always good to change things up and keep your marriage interesting. Way to go!

February 23, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterDonna Martin

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